kate + lemonade
The short answer is winters—people who belong to one of the three winter color seasons.
In fact, this is an easy way to test if you’re a winter:
Do you look more alive in red, white, and black?
Here’s what that looks like.
Note: This post only makes sense if you’re familiar with the thirteen Kibbe style types.
Dramatic: Greyhound
Before chopping a fruit or vegetable, look up the best way to deal with it.
I always seek out video instructions on how to chop things.
For example, here’s the best way to chop a bell pepper.
Al-Anon and other twelve-step programs seem to require faith in “God.”
For example, step three is:
“Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”
Since God doesn’t exist, how can anyone take a twelve-step program seriously?
Here’s my solution.
I use “God” as shorthand for higher powers, plural. This lets me embrace the program without deluding myself.
Update—Jan. 28, 2023:
This video says everything I wanted to say and more.
Video: “Worshipping narcissists” by QualiaSoup and TheraminTrees.
/end of update
Here are some beliefs I used to have about God (as a child raised Christian) and my partner (as a woman in an abusive relationship).
1. He sets the terms.
You’re entitled to your opinion. He’s entitled to be the voice of reason and authority.
For example, if he says he loves you, he loves you. That’s what “love” means.
(If you say you love him but you also disobey his express wishes, you don’t really love him.)
A dog just wants a pillow.
A reader asked:
I saw your recent blog post on style essences. I am having a really hard time figuring out how my facial essence comes across. Do you have any tips?
The best way is to try out the different style essences—to see your face in the context of each style essence—take photos, and compare the results.
So basically, step one is to do your hair, makeup, jewelry, and outfit according to each essence. But how do you do that?
In this post, I’ll describe a sample look for each style essence.
The answer is: People with the ethereal and/or ingenue style essence.
For example, Lana Condor looks fabulous in pink tulle.
