kate + lemonade
Often, people don’t want advice. They want to vent, to be heard, to explore how they think and feel, and to connect; to not feel so alone.
When someone tells me about a problem they’re having and I give advice, it shuts down all those objectives. I seem like a know-it-all (who doesn’t actually know it all). And the other person feels distanced from me—more alone than ever.
So why do I do it? Because I’m…
If you’ve tried searching for advice on how to make yourself attractive, you’ve probably noticed a common theme: it’s useless. Here’s why.
“Good” characters typically wear red, blue, and yellow.
Note: This post refers to the twelve seasons system of personal color analysis. (My season is true summer.) For an introduction, see Rachel of Truth is Beauty’s post on color analysis.
True summer is a garden of pink roses in full bloom.
This is a letter to my younger self. This is part two; see parts one and three.
The whole reason people are in abusive relationships is that they will put up with practically anything for the sake of the relationship.
What people don’t understand is the fact that you’re willing to “put up with it” is the result of abuse—not a personal failure to stand up for yourself.
As a true summer, my best colors are pink, purple, blue, green, and pale lemon yellow, plus grey, taupe, and silver-white.
Note: The women below are not true summers, but they’re wearing colors that are (or close enough to illustrate the idea).
We’re often taught that cool colors are blue, green, and purple.
Whereas warm colors are red, orange, and yellow.
Seems simple.
But then why do we call some whites “cool” and others “warm”?
And how can a lipstick be “blue-red”?
It’s enough to make you feel like the hapless Cinderella, unable to choose between cream and ecru dinner napkins.
The answer is: